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Thomas P Seager, PhD
6 min readJan 24, 2022


Maslow on sex

Maslow’s original theory of human motivation (Maslow 1943) barely touches upon sex as a motivator, which is an obvious oversight, given the emphasis on lust as a motive in folklore, scandals, religious prohibitions, and human history.

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Maslow was not so shy in his earlier work, in which he painstaking interviewed 130 women and 15 men about their sex lives, including masturbation habits, fantasies, and peccadilloes (Maslow 1939, 1942). He seems to anticipate that sex drive ranks with either safety or self-esteem in his eventual hierarchy of motives when he wrote, “for relatively insecure people sex is a power weapon, that is in myriad ways related to dominance-feeling and dominance status, and indeed may be considered itself as a kind of dominance or subordination behavior or at least as a channel through which domination-subordination may be expressed. In general it has more intimate relationships with dominance feelings than it has with physiological drive” (Maslow 1942).

He cautions that this theory “definitely does not hold for people and societies that are secure,” but he doesn’t describe what constitutes a secure society or person.

I doubt that either the modern United States, or me for that matter, would qualify as “secure,” which suggests that Maslow might include sex drive as an inter-relational status goal.

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In ‘A Theory of Human Motivation’ Maslow writes that “Sex may be studied as a purely physiological need,” which would place sex at the bottom of his hierarchy where sleep, water, and food reside. This suggests that lack of sex could constitute a physical emergency, and that without sex, the body will suffer and die — which Maslow admits is not the case. Thus, he suggests that sex might better rank with the need for love, a sense of belonging, and affection although he confuses this assertion by cautioning that “love is not synonymous with sex.”