Calling it “unhealthy attraction,” is a mischaracterization. It is a compulsion, or an obsession, and it (like attraction) is not a choice.

Our brains are hard-wired to relive trauma from a position of control, until the trauma is resolved.

https://medium.com/storygarden/relationship-chemistry-explained-f23fdca9ba84

https://medium.com/storygarden/obsessive-thoughts-unresolved-trauma-733015c9413