Emotional dysregulation is an amplifying feedback loop without sensory (i.e., awareness) and control mechanisms. In dysregulation, your emotions are transforming you, rather than the other way around. Emotional regulation requires you to transform your emotions to help you achieve your goals. That’s different from apathy, or lack of emotion. It is conscious use of your emotions to get more of what you want, as described in The Courage to be Disliked.

Emotional Regulation is Critical for Entrepreneurship

Learn to recognize and transform your emotions

Perhaps the most controversial assertion in the popular 2018 text The Courage to be Disliked is that “emotions are fabricated to help us reach our goals.”

You cannot lead others to a level higher than you are able to lead yourself.

- John Maxwell, in The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership (1998)

And this might be why Andreesen finds The Courage… so compelling. Because how could entrepreneurs possibly lead their own organizations while being subject to the whims of uncontrolled emotional outbursts? Self-leadership requires regulation and transformation of you own emotions.

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Emotional transformation is a process requiring awareness, judgment, motivation, and action.

When you want to change your life, there’s one fact that you have to confront:

You are never going to feel like it.

— Mel Robbins, in The 5 Second Rule (2018)

Our desire to feel different in the moment will often get in the way of our motivation to work towards what we want.

Without the courage to put our short-term feelings at risk, we will fail to act in ways that result in getting the things we want.

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