I disagree E.B. Johnson

Our partners are welcome to make requests of us. Your headline says your partner should never ASK you to make these compromises.

The corollary is that, to be a good partner, you should never ask others to make these compromises, either — and that’s nonsense. It’s very, very important to be able to ask for the things you want in a relationship.

How else could two people learn about each other?

There’s an enormous different between creating a request — an invitation — and engaging in coercion. I’m not advocating for coercion.

I’m saying that learning to ask for what you want in a relationship is essential, and your advice about what others “should” never ask of you reeks of self-indulging sense of entitlement.

There’s nothing wrong with asking.

In my experience, some of my greatest personal growth experiences have come from the times a romantic partner has challenged me to reconsider some long-held personal belief.

I know that some of my former partners would say the same thing about me.