I talk about the male experience of self-improvement in the context of dating because that's where the differences in gender are most obvious. Personal satisfaction, fitness, and business apply to men and women in different ways, but they are both applicable.

For men, "accept yourself as you are" is a lie that leads to romantic ruin. Men must become. They cannot afford to "accept themselves" until they have made something of themselves. The price of such acceptance is a lonely, sexless life that most men would find unacceptable.