If I could clap more, I would.

Children of narcissists do not grow up to be control freaks because they WANT to be. It is because of what happened to them as children.

The fear of exploitation via gaslighting is acute, and it makes the adult children of narcissists hypervigilant for deceptions -- even to the point where they will see lies where there are only misunderstandings, different perspectives, confusion, or honest mistakes.