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A.J. Kay has indicated in her writing that she’s working to prioritize being successful, over being “right”. The argument that she’s not responsible for poor mate selection leaves her with only the smug satisfaction of moral superiority, and that’s of little use to her 4 daughters.
AJ Kay found that when she accepted responsibility for her choice of mate, she began to release the resentment and negative emotions from her experiences. She began to understand why she chose the mate she did, why she was complicit in his lies, what she got out of those choices, and why it was time for her to seek a new mate. And she began to make changes in her life that benefited her children.
The five stages of grief didn’t “play out until the divorce.” They played out until she accepted responsibility for her own role in shaping her own life.
What she’s not doing is “taking responsibility for him”.
She is taking responsibility for herself.
