One of the fun things about Medium is watching writers later argue that their words don’t mean what they meant when they first wrote the words.
A.J. Kay ’s recent threads offer some great examples.
The most salient is The Happy Highwayman, Jordan Chandler, who has a few marriages of experience to draw upon, and might be qualified to offer AJ Kay some nuggets of wisdom about what works for him. He wrote:
Which means… well, everybody who reads those words knows it means JC “thinks” AJ Kay is doing something wrong and it doesn’t take him very many words to point out what her mistake is.
He also tells AJ Kay how to feel about it:
Here, it’s more of an implication than an accusation, but given that AJ Kay has expressed remorse for her role in “ruining” her Ex-husband’s life, there’s no doubt that JC is admonishing her for feeling the wrong thing.
Finally, JC tops it off by telling me I’m wrong, too, when he invokes his inalienable right to argue that his words don’t now mean what they meant when he wrote them.
Yeah we didn’t tell her it’s wrong you’re mis interpreting our words.
Well… I wonder what you did mean, Jordan? ’cause you didn’t use your post to clarify.
That’s three responses telling other people who are sharing their experiences that they are wrong and nothing yet about what your experiences have taught you about what works for you.
That’s poor form, Jordan.
For my part, I’m not claiming that my response to AJ Kay was misinterpreted. I’m saying it was stupid of me to write it in the first place.
I’ll go further here.
I’m sorry I wrote it. If I could do it over again, I would write:
I wish I had your fucking courage, AJ Kay. Watching you deal with your Ex-husband’s shit in the hope that your kids won’t have to is an inspiration to me.
Please pardon me. I feel the need to go hug Emma Seager.
