Thanks for reading, jae wms.

I get the sense that you're a heterosexual woman?

If I'm wrong about that, then I've misread your response and nothing in my reply will be relevant.

If I'm right, then it sounds like the man you want to be in a relationship with is secure in his sexuality, knows what he likes and how to get his sexual needs met, and honest with you.

There's no shame in that.