1 min readFeb 14, 2020
What helped to make sense of what felt like betrayal experiences was empathizing with my former Loves, Lindy Pegler
In post-breakup letters, I might empathize with both my former self, so I could understand what I was working on in the relationship, and then take the perspective of the person who betrayed me, so that I could better understand what problem they thought they were solving.
That’s the only way I could feel safe in a new, committed relationship.
