Why are you reading “advice aimed at men,” Darcy Reeder?
I thought maybe your article was going to be something along the lines of, “My husband is reading Red Pill literature and he’s changing and I’m trying to figure that out!”
But it’s not.
Your article is (unless I’m missing something?), “I went looking on the internet for advice on how to change my husband’s behavior so I could get more ‘me time’ (for me). And what I found wasn’t what I wanted to find.”
Your article makes sense to me in this way:
You have a legitimate need for attention, validation, connection, and your husband is unwilling or unable to meet your legitimate need for that in the moment you describe. So, you write an article on Medium that provides you with attention, validation (from other women on Medium), and some modicum of (digital) connection that you can’t get from your husband.
Nothing wrong with that.
I think your biggest point of disagreement with the Red Pill is with regard to equality. You wrote that you seek equality, and that you work towards it.
But the Red Pill is not predicated on gender inequality, as you wrote. That’s a misconception (albeit a popular one).
The Red Pill does not say that men are better than women, or morally or biologically superior. It says that there are differences between men and women.
The Red Pill makes no suggestion about who should be the leader in a relationship. The Red Pill admits that the person with the most power in the relationship is the one who needs the relationship the least.
The Red Pill doesn’t make moral judgments, or describe how things should be. It seeks to see things as they are.
